Question on coaching communication
Posted: Sat Feb 03, 2024 1:00 pm
We have a non parent coach. He's quite anti social with parents but seems good with the kids. It's a 2012 team and my son is a NRP goalie.
I'm a little upset lately. Pre season, the coach said my son would play against his old team from which he was cut. Yesterday he didn't play against them. It is was the other goalie's second straight start and 5th of the last 7. I'd say the two goalies are pretty comparable skill wise and they've been alternating all season for the most part. Although my son has played more because the other goalie had a few illnesses. So maybe that's why the other goalie is playing more lately?? I don't know.
I found out before the game my son wouldn't play because I ask the coach sometimes who is starting so that family knows whether to travel to the games or not. I was a bit upset when he told me but I sent a polite text back to him saying it's fine, but to please let my son know why because he'll be very disappointed (due to his old team and back to back starts for the other goalie). I said I'd appreciate knowing the reason too so that I can reinforce the coach's message, because my son can be quite sensitive. But 24 hours later the coach hasn't texted me back.
After the game i find out that the coach didn't give my son a reason. He didn't even talk to him at all!!! He just told the other goalie that he's starting; didn't talk to my son at all. This made me fuming.
I feel like I'm being reasonable. Am I not?? Honestly I have never criticized any coaching decision to the coach or anyone else. I don't gossip at all. But now I'm upset because there's no communication on what is happening, to me or my son.
Someone tell me what I should do, or if I'm being totally unreasonable.
I'm a little upset lately. Pre season, the coach said my son would play against his old team from which he was cut. Yesterday he didn't play against them. It is was the other goalie's second straight start and 5th of the last 7. I'd say the two goalies are pretty comparable skill wise and they've been alternating all season for the most part. Although my son has played more because the other goalie had a few illnesses. So maybe that's why the other goalie is playing more lately?? I don't know.
I found out before the game my son wouldn't play because I ask the coach sometimes who is starting so that family knows whether to travel to the games or not. I was a bit upset when he told me but I sent a polite text back to him saying it's fine, but to please let my son know why because he'll be very disappointed (due to his old team and back to back starts for the other goalie). I said I'd appreciate knowing the reason too so that I can reinforce the coach's message, because my son can be quite sensitive. But 24 hours later the coach hasn't texted me back.
After the game i find out that the coach didn't give my son a reason. He didn't even talk to him at all!!! He just told the other goalie that he's starting; didn't talk to my son at all. This made me fuming.
I feel like I'm being reasonable. Am I not?? Honestly I have never criticized any coaching decision to the coach or anyone else. I don't gossip at all. But now I'm upset because there's no communication on what is happening, to me or my son.
Someone tell me what I should do, or if I'm being totally unreasonable.